We all do it — whisper little lies to ourselves that quietly shape how we live, work, and love. “I should be able to do it all.” “If I ask for help, I’m weak.” “I’m not doing enough.” These thoughts creep in so naturally that we often don’t even notice how deeply they affect our confidence and happiness.

But here’s the truth: these lies aren’t facts. They’re beliefs we’ve built over time — stories we’ve absorbed from society, family, or past experiences. And the only way to break free from them is to understand why we believe them in the first place.

The next time you catch yourself saying something limiting — stop and ask yourself why. Then ask again. And again. Keep asking until you reach the real reason underneath.

For example, if you think, “I should be able to do it all,” ask:

• Why do I feel that way?
• Because other women seem to manage.
• Why does that matter?
• Because I don’t want to seem like I’m failing.
• Why do I see needing help as failure?
• Because I was taught to be strong and independent — even when it hurts.

And there it is — the deeper truth. Once you understand where your beliefs come from, you can challenge them with compassion and replace them with something that empowers you instead of holding you back.

One of the best ways to reprogram those thoughts is through affirmations. When you repeat positive statements daily — like “I am capable,” “I am allowed to rest,” or “I deserve support” — you begin to rewire your mind to believe new, healthier truths.

Growth begins with awareness and consistent practice. Be kind to yourself, be curious, and keep affirming the woman you want to become — because your thoughts shape your reality.

Alison
Founder, Seriously Organised
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